According to Christianity, marriage was ordained by God. Fidelity is one of the vows rendered during marriage ceremonies. However, many spouses do not adhere to this vow and instead participate in activities that demonstrate their unfaithfulness. Many marriages have collapsed as a result of unfaithfulness by either of the partners. The number of single families has tremendously increased in the recent past. This paper gives a critical discussion on the effects of infidelity. It does this by agreeing with the assertion that it should be considered to be the leading cause of divorce in contemporary society.
An infidelity is an act of a married spouse participating in extramarital sexual affairs with other partners. In such a case, the partner who engages in this act is regarded to have betrayed the other. While many people argue that it is inevitable, sociologists have found that it is an evil act that is intentionally done without safeguarding the interest of the other partner in marriage. Many researchers have unveiled that many spouses choose to betray their partners without any proper reason. They cannot account for their decision to engage in extramarital affairs (Roderick, 2007). Most of them attribute their conduct to the influence of other people. However, this is an irrational argument that a sound personality should never make. Everyone must accept that infidelity is a matter of choice and can only be eradicated if a person opts to change.
A cheating spouse often behaves weirdly in the family. Although different people adopt this conduct at different times in their marriages, the fact is that it results in immediate behaviour change. For instance, a male partner may start being irresponsible and withdrawn from the rest of the family. They come home late at night. Whenever they are asked to account for it, they keep on blaming their bosses for giving too much work to them. On the other hand, female spouses who cheat become rude and disobedient to their husbands (Kobak & Hazan, 2001).
I would like to agree with Fletcher, G. J., & Kerr, P. S., suggesting that infidelity results in the breakage of marriages. Indeed, a marriage cannot just collapse without any proper reason. As these scholars argue, infidelity is the number one cause of divorces. This has been proved by many researchers that have come up with a conclusion that unfaithfulness may lead to irreconcilable disagreements in families. Once a cheating partner fails to confess before their spouses, the result is rejection. In this regard, I would like to accept that infidelity is dangerous in the family. Life has become so complicated today. There are so many sexually transmitted diseases, such as gonorrhoea and syphilis. If a partner engages in unprotected sexual intercourse with an infected person, there are higher chances of spreading it to the other spouse. This situation may be worsened if one of the spouses contract HIV/AIDS (Fletcher & Kerr, 2010).
I want to conclude by asserting that infidelity is destructive. Apart from having no benefit to the person practising it, it can seriously jeopardize the family. No woman can accept to live with an irresponsible husband. All of them need a caring, loving, and understanding husband responsible for the welfare of their families. The same applies to men who are always aspiring to associate with successful and supportive women. Since infidelity is a risky activity, it can ruin the family if stern measures are not taken. Whenever any of the partners is accused of unfaithfulness, immediate action should be taken to remedy the situation before it gets worse. Otherwise, the family may be torn apart; however, united it may be.
- Fletcher, G. J. & Kerr, P. S. (2010). Through the eyes of love: Reality and illusion in intimate relationships. Psychological Bulletin, 136(4), 627.
- Kobak, R. R. & Hazan, C. (2001). Attachment in marriage: Effects of security and accuracy of working models. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 60(6), 861.
- Roderick, R. (2007). Untying the knot: a short history of divorce. Cambridge, UK: Cambridge University Press.