The revolution started by Daniel Goleman through this book is a feat unaccomplished by any other author. Daniel Goleman has quilled a phenomenal book. It is rich with insight and valuable information. Answers have been provided to the queries of many perplexed professionals and laypersons alike for a great time: Why some people achieve more than others even though the persons have the same natural ability, the same degree of Intelligence and both of them exist in the same environment? The response is Emotional Intelligence, as defined by Goleman. It is not only an extraordinary bestseller but a book not only for reading but rather for learning. It has left a high impact on social and public values, business practices, and teaching standards. Emotional Intelligence focuses on several different skills, most of which deal with the self-knowledge and social interaction with the people of one’s surroundings. Goleman has endeavoured to bring it to the limelight. It seems clear that the phrase “emotional literacy,” which suggests the importance of emotions to cope with the ongoings of the world, is emerged, in a minimal period, from only a sentence to an imminent cultural awareness installation. It is now a subject that is regularly seen in magazines, a topic readily discussed on television shows. It is not uncommon to find bold headings in articles like “The True Secret of Success: Emotional Intelligence” (Chapman, A)
Daniel Goleman touches upon the issue of emotional intelligence, which is without a doubt the least explored. This focuses its attention on the nebulousest and most sensitive aspect of human minds. What is now possible in the advancements in the subject of Emotional intelligence is primarily due to the astounding progress in the study of the human brain during the and Goleman made use of this description in his book last few decades, with excellence and value. This describes the central role that emotions play in our daily life and its management. Emotional intelligence teaches us that our thoughts and emotions such as rage and sorrow are not always a product of our desires, but generally are strong is instead a lack of emotions. Goleman tells us that there are two ways of approaching something, through the heart and the mind. Both types of thinking explicitly affect our view towards life; however, what we think and decide by our hearts have a greater conviction and better certainty than what we believe through our minds. This book tells us not to neglect but to strengthen our emotional understanding. Emotional intelligence plays a far more critical role than IQ because it shows us how to apply our emotions. Goleman explains us five domains of Emotional Intelligence:
- Understanding your emotions
- Managing your feelings so that you can use them correctly
- Self Motivation in demanding tasks
- Recognizing and understanding the opinions of others
- Managing relationships – Dealing with strains in a relation
The most moving part of Goleman’s Emotional intelligence is the scientific research that he has brought to light in his book. Emotional intelligence plays in our daily lives has rarely been touched, and its study has significantly remained unexplored in high scientific research studies. He accurately and comprehensively unravels the functional, emotional part of our brains; for instance, in part one, Goleman gives details inaccessible depth about the details of the technical, sensitive part of our mind the limbic system’s amygdala and its interface with the prefrontal lobes. It elaborates on the evolution of the emotional brain and why it plays such a more significant leading role in our lives despite the neo-cortex or what is put by Goleman as the “thinking brain.” This book has its roots firmly planted in psychology and neurosciences, and generally, the topics do a lot of science. One minor drawback of this scientific jargon is that sometimes, it thoroughly bathes in research implications, fails to explain scientific terms and may alienate a reader for a short time who is not familiar with the topic of science and neurology; however, these shortcomings are mainly due to the result of sky-high aims and ambitions of this book. It is like a small black spot on a large shiny diamond, and it certainly should not deter anyone from pursuing the book.
Goleman reveals in chapter two of his book that emotional intelligence shows its sign even in very children of very young age. Those children with an admirable emotional intelligence are easily able to confront crowds of their fellow students and can skillfully make their place in a group of youngsters; however, those children who lack proper emotional intelligence are regarded as socially isolated, and they are more prone to find themselves alienated rather than welcomed if they perhaps perchance to barge into a group of youngsters. However, as Goleman tells us, the good part is that this ability could be taught to young children. Still, before this could be done, its importance and worth should first be adequately recognized by parents and teachers. It should be considered to be added as an additional activity to be taught during their studying time. The book gives detailed recommendations on showing the right path to those youngsters who are socially inert and how to guide them and help them widen their ability to manage their temper, behaviour, and how to correctly display their emotions, thus nurturing emotional intelligence in them.
Later chapters also present the reader with an argument that emotional intelligence exists in reality even though it is not an entirely sure scientifically proven subject and is more likely to play an essential role in a man’s success. The way Goleman has presented it in his book is undoubtedly a compelling one. He says that there are people in the world who seem to be deemed with success, from a high-grade school to a scholarship-filled university. Still, some people are moderately successful in life, and they have difficulty taking part in conversations and voice their opinions among a bunch of people. According to the author, they are the people who have a deficiency of emotional intelligence or more commonly be called “emotionally unskilled.” These people are poorly adjusted in society, and they have to develop their emotional intelligence before they can actively take part in a gathering. Goleman urges that to have a better understanding of Emotional Intelligence, a person needs to understand his emotions and a way clear for his goals. Still, he should also be able to understand others’ feelings. (Gerald)
Most of us presume that Emotional intelligence means the ability to get along well with others, however, Goleman clearly and much to a more excellent surprise of the readers tells us that the concept of Emotional intelligence is detailed and far-reaching. In chapter eight, Goleman makes some suggestions that the best way to keep right and healthy relationships is to listen to one’s talk and detoxify it. A person should not always speak but also listen to others. This chapter deals with the emotional differences between the two genders and the communication of emotions between a man and a woman in a relationship. It also tells the reader how the deficiency of emotional intelligence could prevail in a family through inheritance. One of the most shocking, enlightening, and captivating chapters of the book is “Mind and Medicine,” which deals with a strong bond which Emotional intelligence shares with our medical health. He shockingly reveals how much a person can suffer and the health problems which a person can face due to his lack of social skills and Emotional intelligence. This chapter discusses research which tells us the link between the nervous system and the immune system of our body and how the emotions we express are directly and influentially linked with the other methods of our collection and if we have a problem with this system, so there will be a problem with our health. He says in his book: “People with chronic anxiety, prolonged periods of sorrow and pessimism, excessive stress or incessant aggression, extreme cynicism or distrust have been identified double the risk of disease-including asthma, arthritis, headaches, peptic ulcers, and heart disease.”
The upheaval raised in the world’s culture is now taking up the pace in instructing the people of Emotional Intelligence. Although the dreams seen by Daniel Goleman and others of including and giving more importance to Emotional Intelligence cannot be fulfilled in a short time, however, it may be hoped that in near future fruits of Goleman’s efforts will bear and we would start to give more consideration and importance to Emotional intelligence than we usually do. Whether it is a child, a high school teenager, a housewife, or a working man, this book is a must-read. It enhances our ability to understand ourselves and the ability to mingle with our society. (Goleman)
- Chapman, A. Chapman, A. 10 April 2009 <www.businessballs.com/eq.htm>. pg1
- Gerald, G. Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ. 1995. 10 April 2009 <www.brainconnection.com/topics/?main=bkrev/goleman-emotional>.pg4
- Goleman, D. Emotional Intelligence. 1995.pg5